Since Ryan was born we have been fortunate enough to go out together a few times, just Adam and I. We went out to lunch last September for our anniverary, Adam's work party in January, dinner for Valentine's Day, attended a wedding in March, and then this one on Saturday. There are probably one or two other occcasions that I am forgetting. I have heard how important it is to maintain a healthy marriage once you have kids, and I think planning regular time together, such as a monthly date night, is a great idea. It's just hard to actually execute, with budget limitations and a little boy who can be difficult to watch. So tell me, how often do you get out with your spouse, without your children tagging along? What do you think about having a designated "date night?"
We get date nights maybe every two or three months. But we try to be intentional about the time we have together while she's asleep, and make sure we really talk and check in with each other, not just get things done and veg out.
ReplyDeletevery rarely! But we do take time at least several evenings a week to watch a tv show or something together. We don't have family nearby, and when they visit, we usually end up wanting to spend the time with them, rather than going out by ourselves (although they always offer to babysit!)
ReplyDeleteSince Susannah's been born, I think we've gone out 5-6 times maybe?
I think for some people an actual "date night" is important, but as long as you're connecting with your spouse and making time for each other, it's not a necessity. (also, we're pathetic and never know what to "do" when we have a date night!)
We go out about once a month BUT we are going to try to implement weekly "date nights" at home. I saw the idea a few years ago on this blog: http://www.simplymodernmom.com/2009/12/project-52-date-nights/
ReplyDeleteBasically, we're just going to set aside one day every week to do something a little different than usual. I'm hoping it works out and allows us to have more purposeful time together.